Introduction: Are You Poisoning Your Child’s Mind?
Do you have the right to corrupt your child’s innocence with your own biases, fears, and prejudices? Every parent influences their child’s worldview, but are you shaping them to be open-minded, compassionate individuals—or burdening them with unnecessary hatred?
Parents often unknowingly poison their children by instilling fears and biases against certain races, religions, or social groups. This subconscious conditioning affects their future relationships, career growth, and mental well-being. As responsible adults, we must break this cycle and raise socially fit, inclusive children.
This article dives deep into real-life experiences of prejudice, how it gets passed down, and what we can do to ensure our kids grow up free from unnecessary biases.
The Consequences of Parental Prejudice
A Doctor’s Regret: “I Wish My Parents Hadn’t Poisoned Me”
A young doctor once stayed at my condo while attending residency meetings. At the end of his stay, he admitted, “I wish my parents had not poisoned me against Blacks, Muslims, Christians, and Jews. Everything I had heard from them turned out to be false.”
Growing up with ingrained biases, he struggled to interact with colleagues from diverse backgrounds. His work suffered, and his relationships lacked trust. Only after living and working with people from different backgrounds did he realize the damage his upbringing had done.
His story is not unique—many children inherit their parents’ biases and unknowingly limit their own potential.
How Bias Affects Work and Social Life
When children grow up believing in stereotypes and false narratives, they develop subconscious biases that impact their professional and personal lives.
- Workplace Discrimination: Employees with biases often struggle to collaborate with colleagues from different backgrounds, limiting innovation and teamwork.
- Personal Relationships: A biased individual may find it difficult to form meaningful friendships or romantic relationships with those outside their immediate community.
- Mental and Emotional Struggles: Holding onto negativity, suspicion, or superiority complexes creates stress and anxiety.
- Connections: They find it out of place with many places and find it difficult to connect with others.
If you’re poisoned against others, you might unknowingly pass this onto your children—affecting their career opportunities, friendships, and future happiness.
Real-Life Stories of Bias and Discrimination
The Indian and Pakistani Divide in America
As an Indian-American, I have interacted with many Indians and Pakistanis in the U.S. While most coexist peacefully, some carry deep-seated resentment. The worst part? They pass this hatred to their children.
A Pakistani child once harassed my son in a mall simply because of his Indian heritage. My son retaliated by calling him a “Paki.” It took multiple discussions to help him unlearn that mindset and recognize that nationality should never determine a person’s worth.
Religious Prejudice in India
When I was ten, my father took me on a tour of Mysore City with the town council members from Yelahanka. During the trip, we visited the Ranganath Temple in Srirangapatna, where the temple priest expressed his hatred towards Muslims by denigrating Tipu Sultan, the King of Mysore from about 225 years ago. He falsely claimed that Tipu had destroyed the temple.
My father intervened to correct him, explaining that Tipu had donated significant sums of money to the temple, and some of the brass items from that era are still in use today. He also reminded the priest that Tipu had protected Shankara Charya’s mutt in Sringeri from raids by the Hindu Maratha kings. Realizing he was addressing municipal councilors, the priest apologized for his earlier comments. I hope he did not continue with that hateful talk afterward.
There is a great deal of bias expressed by people around the world, particularly against minorities. Regardless of whether they are religious, racial, or social, no group of people is spared. A white South African man once stayed at my place and shared with me the challenges that white individuals face as a minority in South Africa.
In the book, I will provide many examples of raising interfaith children to help them have a great life without biases and live a happier life, please do not poison your children.
Religious Prejudice in Israel
On a trip to Jerusalem, an Israeli tour guide on the bus falsely stated that Islam’s first pillar was Jihad, defining it as “killing Jews and Americans.” As a Muslim, I immediately corrected her and explained that Islam has only five pillars, none of which involve violence.
Her misinformation was a clear example of how biased narratives spread through generations, shaping entire societies. Thanks to the fellow passengers in the bus, they asked the guide to give the microphone to me to explain and correct the mistake.
Racial Profiling in America
In Colorado, a white mother touring a university reported two Native American teenagers to campus security simply because she felt “uncomfortable” around them. They were detained but later released when officers found they had done nothing wrong.
Was this truly her fault, or had her parents poisoned her against minorities from a young age?
Social Poisoning: Are We Raising the Next Generation of Bigots?
Many children grow up believing in misconceptions such as:
- Jews have horns (a myth still believed by some).
- Muslims don’t talk or behave like “normal” people.
- Black people are dangerous.
- LGBTQ individuals are unnatural.
Where do these ideas originate? Parents, teachers, religious leaders, and even media outlets play a role in spreading them.
If we continue poisoning our kids, they will carry unnecessary fears and prejudices throughout life, affecting their ability to succeed in a diverse society.
Freedom from Bias: A Path to Peace and Success
A Monk’s Lesson: Drop the Baggage
A famous Buddhist story tells of two monks who needed to cross a river. A pregnant woman asked for help, and the senior monk carried her across.
Later, the junior monk criticized him, saying, “You broke the rule by touching a woman.” The senior monk replied, “I put her down at the riverbank. Why are you still carrying her in your mind?”
Like that junior monk, many people carry inherited biases for a lifetime. It’s time to let them go.
How Can You Free Yourself from Bias?
- Challenge What You’ve Been Taught: Ask yourself if your beliefs are truly yours or if they were imposed on you.
- Engage with Different Communities: Visit different places of worship, interact with people of diverse backgrounds, and expand your worldview.
- Teach Your Children Inclusion: If you expose them to multiple perspectives, they will be free from inherited prejudice.
If we want a better world, we must start with ourselves.
Why This Matters for America (and the World)
Can a Biased Child Serve a Nation Fairly?
Imagine an Indian-American is appointed as a U.S. Ambassador to Pakistan. If their parents raised them to hate Pakistanis, would they serve American interests fairly?
Bias affects governance, diplomacy, and leadership. Perhaps we should introduce a law requiring government employees to have a clear, inclusive mindset before taking office.
America’s Strength Lies in Diversity
The United States thrives because of its freedoms:
- Freedom of religion
- Freedom of speech
- Freedom of press
- Freedom to assemble and protest
If we allow racial, religious, and cultural divisions to fester, we threaten the very fabric of our nation.
Final Thoughts: Raising a Generation of Leaders, Not Haters
Your child could one day be the President of the United States. Will they look at every American as a fellow citizen—or as an enemy based on race, religion, or nationality?
If we want peace, we must raise children who respect the otherness of others and embrace diversity.
Let’s make a commitment: We will not poison our kids with bias. We will raise them to be open-minded, compassionate, and socially responsible individuals.
Because a truly free society starts with the minds of its children.
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Dr. Mike Ghouse
Thinker | Author | Speaker | News Contributor | Interfaith Wedding Officiant
📖 Author of “The American Muslim Agenda” – Available on Amazon.
Final Note: The Choice is Yours
You can carry your prejudices to the grave. But please, don’t poison your kids.