Most of them over 50 had listed “spirituality” for religion and were bold to write they do not care about religion; all men were the same! I have heard many confessions that they would rather live with another woman.
One of the saddest part of that conversations was the bias that deepened in them against Indian or Pakistani men, or Hindu or Muslim men. No doubt there are bad guys among us, but so are in every race, ethnicity, nationality and religion, perhaps the same percentage. After breaking up with romance, they were too quick to reiterate their biases that their parents had injected in them.
Think about this, we are messing with our children by running our sewers in their hearts and minds. They can have a beautiful life if we don’t prejudice them towards others. Shame on us for training our kids to be bigots. I am not bragging, but I took both of my kids to every place of worship – yes, every one indeed and they are grown ups now with no bias towards any. However, my son had faced some ugly comments from a handful of “Pakis” and before the bias could become a part of him, I was able to strip it from him. This goes the other way too. I taught them the same lesson that my father taught – that individuals tend to do bad things and we cannot blame a group for the acts of the individuals.
A few years down the road, I may have a university do research on the topic.
By the way, if you or your friends have kids who want to get married, I perform the interfaith weddings with customized sermons to reflect their religious traditions. They are going to get married any way, and no one should be denied the joy of their life by giving them a touch of their tradition. I have done Jewish-Christian, Christian-Hindu, Muslim-Jain, Hindu-Muslim, Atheist-Christian weddings. You can visit my site http://interfaithmarriages.blogspot.com/
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